The “rule” is that you always choose your mates over your girl but you know that this is easier said than done. If you hang out with the boys too much, your girl start nagging and if it’s vise versa your mates will be asking if you are in fact a real mate of them.

If you want to balance your time between your friends and partner; here are 3 valuable tips to get you going.

Don’t break your appointments.

Once plans are made with either party, they’re set in stone. This can bite you in the ass if for example: your mates call you that they have arranged on the last minute some great football tickets.

Follow up on your plans in the order that you’ve made them. This way neither parties can ever accuse you of favouring the “other side”.

Be a match maker for your friends.

I know it sounds lame and it’s often a girl thing but if you have single friends than most of the time they don’t relate with or understand it how it is to spend time with a partner you love. Hook him up; he’ll leave you alone.

Do things together.

Who says you can’t do both at the same time? When you go out in the weekend? Going out to dinner doesn’t always have to be something for the two of you. Invite your mates along and it ill be a blast. She’ll enjoy getting to know your mates a bit more. Be careful though; don’t invite your girl for the male poker and beer night, you’re mates will see this as the end of your relationship.

Although you’ll need to balance your time wisely; you’re mates and your partner need to know what time it is. Your mates need to realize that this girl is here to stay and your girl needs to realize that you know the boys for years and that they are special for you.

Be open and be clear! How do you manage your time??

1. Be a listener, not a problem solver. When your lady speaks to you, listen to what she says and the tone of her voice, her mannerisms, and any other signals available to accurately gauge her emotions. Women do not expect you to solve their problems, but they expect you to understand their plight. So keep your Home Depot Mr. Fix It persona in check and pay attention to her.

2. Be a provider. Sure, women today are self reliant and don't need men. However, they choose to have a man (in most cases). Societal norms are ingrained into our psyches and will obviously interfere with your relationship if your job requires the phrase "would you like fries with that" at age 35. Therefore, be a good provider for your mate and future family because a woman's nesting instincts will be completely shut down if you can't support an adequate lifestyle.

3. Be a handy man. I'm not suggesting you need to turn into Bob Vila, but doing simple hands on weekend warrior projects makes your lady feel that she didn't pick a momma's boy. I know its stereotypical, but sporting that tool belt might be one of your best friends when it comes to your relationship (hint: a turn on for her). Just remember to avoid the low riding jeans and the plumber's "vertical smile".

4. Be a great father (if relevant). The first time your lady sees you holding your baby while you are passed out in a rocking chair, cradling your baby boy/girl that is wide awake playing with your messed up hair, wrinkled pajamas, and sporting the worst morning breath ever – she will fall in love with you all over again. So be the best dad in the world.

5. Be a man. Sure, its popular to be a metrosexual in some circles but the reason classics always come back into style is that they're the best. So wear your version of your "what makes a man a man attitude" with pride. Kick back during football games, play in the mud with your dog, wear your 10 year old college T-shirts, and do your worst John Wayne impression even though she might claim she hates it, she really doesn't mind. If she loves you and knows you well, the fact that you have fallen into your role as the man of the house will show her that you're committed to her.
 

Now that we have some broad topics covered, lets take a different approach by giving very detailed examples of what makes a good man great in his lady's eyes. These are the stories of worship and praise that make you a legend on ladies nights out or in the twice a week aerobics class.

1. Its 4am, and your 8 months pregnant wife is hungry. You roll out of bed to make her a peanut butter, pickles and tuna fish sandwich because that is her favorite 4am snack. The smell is horrific, but fortunately you are so sleepy you don't even notice. This is the supportive side that women are go nuts over. If you do the little things that we men often overlook, you're set for life with this woman.

2. You are in a club and encounter your date's ex boyfriend. He insults her, in front of you and everyone else. What do you do? Common sense and non violent rules should always apply, but nothing impresses a woman like defending her honor. I'm not suggesting you knock the guy out, but stand up for the lady that you brought. If you do knock him out, make sure she's a lawyer or a orthopedic surgeon because you might need one or both.

3. Its a dark rainy night and you're driving back from a great first date and boom! Flat tire. Roll up your sleeves and get it changed without her helping you. Practice in your own driveway if you can't change it yourself because its incredibly embarrassing to call AAA to change a tire. If you do call AAA, Man Law states that you should be forced to watch Oprah for 24 hours minimum for your lack of basic man skills. While we are on the subject, learn to change the oil in her car and put a roadside safety kit together for her. Its very simple to do and she will love that you are concerned for her safety.

4. Its your anniversary and you have a well orchestrated special event planned for your lady. Doesn't matter what the evening entails, but the simple fact that you took the time to plan something in her honor is worth some serious bonus points. It doesn't mean you're a wimp or girly-man that you love your lady. Quite the contrary, its one of the best things imaginable to keep a relationship churning on all cylinders.

5. An evening on the town is planned. You pick up your date, and open the car door for her. You open the door at the restaurant. You pull her seat out at dinner. Yes guys, being a gentleman still works wonders for you. Practicing consistent acts of gentlemanly behavior and chivalry will never go out of style. It might take some time to adjust to this, but remember, only a lazy man's idea of opening the door for his lady involves pushing the keyless entry button on your car.

What will happen if you whisper in her ear, “I give a great erotic massage”? What would she do? She would sit and wonder for a moment. She will be intrigued. She will imagine just lying there receiving pleasure that you made happen. Then she’d look at you seductively and say “Show me”.

Prepare your erotic massage and it will maximize your pleasure.

If you want to know how to give a massage, first set the mood with soft music. Don’t try to be romantic with Barry White or Sade. It’s much better to grab a nice and relaxing pop cd than a smooth Barry White cd, you don’t want to overdo it. Then it’s time for some rose petals on the bed, soft lighting and lit candles. You want to make sure your partner is comfortable during this erotic massage. She may want to shower/bath beforehand to make her feel less inhibited and relaxed. Just remember this is an erotic massage and not a back rub designed to relieve tension and pain. Rather you will want to use gentle, constant, rhythmic motion.

What you also want to prepare is what kind of massage oil do you want to use? Vegetable or baby oil?? Absolutely not!! You can buy great massage oils for under $20 or $30 and you can use them easily more than once. Pick an oil that evokes a certain emotion. For instance, lavender is for relaxation, and jasmine is an aphrodisiac. You decide whether you want to be a mastermind behind a Sleeping Beauty or a Passionate Pocahontas.

Okay kids, go play out side, it’s time for grown up talk. Where to start your erotic massage?

Start by lightly kissing her, touching her hair, gazing into her eyes. Start your erotic massage with your partner on her stomach, making sure her head is nestled on comfortable pillows.

Start the massage by pouring a small amount of lubricant in your hands. It’s very important to warm it up by rubbing your hands together before applying it. You don’t want to shock her.

Use just a little lubricant at first. You don’t want it to get too wet and sloppy, and you can always apply more if needed. Massages are about touch, so you want to keep constant contact of your hands with her body. Everyone is different in their likes and dislikes of a massage technique. So make sure you communicate with her during the erotic massage to see how you are doing. You can also listen to her breathing to determine if she is enjoying your massage technique. Or ask her softly if she wants you to use more pressure or lighter touches when you are working on a part of her body. Use fingertips in softer, more sensitive areas and full hand in areas such as the back and shoulders.

It’s time for some ultimate erotic massage techniques.

When you are learning how to give a massage, a good technique is to start with the feet, working up to the neck area, then turning her over on her back to work on her chest and legs. Become an expert on how to give a massage by using this for ultimate blood flow to the genital area.

Rub her feet, but don’t spend too much time here or she might get sleepy. Then work up the back of her legs, softly touching her inner thighs, brushing her genital area. Use your fingertips on the lower part of her bottom and top of her legs together, ending with tickles in her inner thighs. Working up, tickle the insides of the bottom crack. Work up the back, massaging on the outsides of the spinal cord, but not the spinal cord itself. Lightly tickle the lower middle back for a special sensation. Spend a few moments on an erotic massage of the neck and arms. Don’t rub too hard, still keeping with gentle movements. Rub her hands, devoting your time to each individual finger. Finish by holding each of her hands in each of your hands for a loving moment. Tell her you are going to turn her over at this point, and assist her in her repositioning as if she is a delicate china doll.

Gently rub her shoulders, and lightly touch her nipples and breast area, stroking the outer sides of the breasts together. You don’t want to be too invasive at this point, but you don’t want to ignore her super-sensitive areas either. Use fingertips down her stomach, gliding down towards her legs, lightly brushing her inner thighs, near her genital area. As you brush her inner thighs, gently rub her entire vulva, following with clitoral stimulation. Slowly use your fingers to give her internal pleasure

So, my friends. I hope you all liked this article and that you’ll have a great night full of spectacular pleasure. Have Fun!!

It’s all in the Eyes!

Eye contact is direct and powerful. Look across the room with your head up high. If you are interested in a woman, try to catch her eye and hold the glance a little longer than normal, narrow your eyes slightly and kindly smile a little. You can miss with this one

Be proud and walk like a man!

When you walk in a room, you want to send out the message that you are masculine, available, exciting, aggressive and sexual. When you walk, you should move with an arrogant sort of grace, using a brisk, flowing, erect walk, with easy confidence in your motions and posture. Make sure your chest is out and your chin is up. A confident man (or acting confident;)) is what women are looking for.

Check Out Her Body (with out drooling).

Be careful with this because this can backfire on you. You can take a quick up and down look at her body in less than a second. You want to compliment her by noticing her body, but not to the point of displaying her as a sex object in your eyes. Checking out her body will also send out a message that you are confident but again; be careful!

If you really want to master the secrets of body language and mind reading; go check out this course.

You don’t have to be super good looking to attract women. Having a powerful presence and utilizing body language expertly will make women notice you. Did you know that 50% of what you say to women is communicated through your body language?

Put Power in Your Movements.

Women want to be with confident, engaging and fascinating males. Move your body as if you enjoy life and are engaged in the moment. Sit, stand, move your hands to describe what you are saying, and be energetic in your message.

Listen Closely to What She is Saying.

Don’t pretend to listen using body language techniques such as "furrowing your brow". It’s important to really listen to what she is saying, looking intently at her, only her. And of course this will help you with follow-up conversation ideas!

Create Sexual Tension by Entering Her Space.

Create sexual tension by entering her space. No touching if you’ve just met, but whispering is fine. Get in her space just enough to whisper something in her ear. Compliment her, notice something about her that is striking, her eyes, her smile, her beauty. The key is to step into her body zone by getting close enough for her to be uneasy, but not close enough to touch.

If you really want to master the secrets of body language and mind reading; go check out this course.

Offer her a massage

What is this 1985?? This might have worked then but come on, act like you live in 2008.

Give her a gift card for a spa massage; this shows her you care that she’s pampered, even when there’s no immediate chance of you getting laid as a result.

Too Much Aftershave.

Of course she wants you to smell nice and clean but don’t bath in aftershave. Be careful with not only how much but also with what brand. She doesn’t want to sit next to a guy who smells like a toilet bowl.

Women only want to notice your cologne when they are close to you. Trust me on this; when the come closer they realize that they are entering your comfort zone and than they happen to notice how lovely you smell; this is the trick to cologne and seduction. Again; trust me on this.

After a shower, when you’re naked and dry, spray cologne into the air and walk through it. Never spray more than once or twice and never onto your clothes.

Don’t be wine expert

If you don’t know anything about it, don’t pretend you do. If you do know something, don’t be pretentious about it. Just pour her a glass and say "cheers".

Take her out to normal restaurants.

Don’t try to be a hotshot and bring her to a restaurant with a gazillion Michelin Stars. She don’t want to see tight-arsed waiters hovering like seagulls around your table and she couldn’t care less about that fancy 100 page wine list in French.

Just take her to your favourite place with the nice music playing in the background and the relaxing atmosphere.

Remember, if you can’t relax, you can’t seduce.

Romantic music

Yeah play some Barry White, Sade or Julio Iglesias. Hell no; if you play this she’ll knows for sure that you want to get in her pants.

Don’t forget: you are a Modern Men so act like it and play some modern tunes!

Don’t you guys love sports?? Sport is great! Sport has everything a men need. It has drama, passion, action, blood and it’s interested and intriguing. I ask you; isn’t this what women need or want in life?? Yes I thought so but how come that we are mainly watching sports by ourselves??

My guess is that they don’t have a clue why we are so excited about sports. If you want her by your site; you’ll need to teach her what sport is about!

Here are some tips that you might need if you don’t want to spend your Sunday nights alone on the couch watching TV.

You need to teach her to appreciate to game and players.

To her it might look easy if Sam Schilt wins the K1 or when Giggs scores the winning goals for Man United but we know it isn’t easy at all. Explain to her how these professionals train 6 days a week to be the best in their field. They need to be on top of their game 24/7.

Tell her that they are really are nice guys.

Don’t tell her about David Beckham cheating on his wife. No, tell her what a good father he is. Tell her about the good causes their supporting and that they really want to make a difference in the world.

Show her the harmonious relationship between players and teams.

If I’m watching K1 kickboxing, all my girl is seeing is two guys bashing in each others head. I think this is awesome but my girl is seeing this differently. Tell her that the guys are hugging each other at the end of the game and that this is only in the ring. Tell her that the fighters are probably having drinks later on but that there is now rivalry between them.

The players are connecting because of the sport and because of the connection that they have, they now have a harmonious relationship build on trust. What do you think of this line;) hehehe

Explain the rules.

If you can’t show her by playing a friendly game, then simply explain it to her. It is a fact that most women have no clue what they are watching, and we can’t blame theme. I don’t know the rules for field hockey or another (women) sport. If you explain to her the rules you’ll have much more chance that she will start appreciating your love.

Answer all her questions patiently and nice.

If she’s doing her best she might come up with some “stupid” questions or she’ll ask for things you’ve explained her already several times. Be patient guys, appreciation for the game isn’t created in a minute.

Take her with you to a game.

Invite her to watch you play or take her to see a professional game. This is great for her learning the rules. She might pick up a bit of your enthusiasm for the game. And you might even get lucky at night if she’s seeing you sweet and being aggressive towards your opponents. Don’t be to aggressive though;)

And if these 6 tips aren’t working, this is the last option.

Normally sports isn’t about compromising but hé you want her to watch sports. Tell her you’ll do something she’ll likes doing. You can take her to the movies and go see that crappy Leonardo DiCaprio or Hugh Grant chick movie.

If you don’t feel like compromising, than go to the fridge, grab a cold beer, shut up and enjoy the game.

Cheers Guys

If you are cheating on your wife, you better think of this….

You went on a date and took your car. Make sure you set the passenger seat back in the original position. This will bring up questions for sure. Be careful!! One other small tip; check the radio, it might be on an irregular station.

Don’t change your cell phone habits just because she might happen to call. This is the first thing that will make her suspicious. Don’t suddenly put it on silent, except for at night. You don’t want her to call you when your wife is sleeping next to you. And BTW be careful with a specified phone bill and ehh don’t forget to delete the HOT text messages.

Don’t change you physical appearance to radical. If you just started with cheating don’t buy new clothes or get a new hair style. I know you are feeling good and that you want to be attractive to other woman but do it in simple and small steps.

Be careful with the smell of (her) perfume, smoke or alcohol. Try to find time to change first after your hot date.

Always be friendly to your wife. Some men become more short-tempered because of the guilty feelings. Don’t be bothered by small things that where okay with you at first.

Ill continue this series with another nice list with some great and valuable tips on it. Trust me; you want to stick around for this. Enjoy your date; with or without your wife;).