It’s not just secrets… It’s theft, betrayal, disrespect….. How would I felt if my boss or colleague treated me like this in the workplace?

Right, terrible. And it’s so much worse to do it in a relationship.

You know what’s odd? If it was “Ten ways to kill someone with articles from the bedroom”, or “How to rip off the new VendyCo vending machines” or “How do evade most security systems”, I wouldn’t so much as bat an eyelid.

Like I said, I’m not calling you immoral for posting it or asking you to take it down, I’m just giving feedback – expressing my extreme discomfort and unhappiness at seeing such a post.

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A post to tech me how to rape and destroy the thing most sacred to me.

I just written a post about a Lamborghini Murcielago and a while back a post about being Space Tourist. This might come as a shock to you but I don’t own a Lamborghini Murcielago and I never been to space.

If you cheat, I hope you’re happy with it and I sincerely mean that with out any sarcasm. I’m not saying its wrong or condoning it, it’s your decision, and you probably have your reasons for it. Even though cheating isn’t my thing I do hope that my tips are helpful for you.

Sorry to disappoint you but maybe I wasn’t clear enough in my post.

I’m not a cheater. I never cheated on my current girlfriend or in my previous relations. Even though I have been tempted I always respected the trust that my girl had in me.

I wrote that I can understand some men who cheat; I didn’t say it was my cup of tea.

My girl and I have a very “open” relation and with open I mean she can go out with friends and she can do what ever she wants. I don’t have to be part of all her things, I trust her completely.
I guess that if I should cheat on her than also my own trust in her would be less. Then I would be worried of her cheating on me when she’s going out. If I cheat, why can she do it? Don’t know if this makes any sense but I can’t explain it in another way.

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First of all, there’s no need to apologize at all!! I like reading your opinion on this as well as I liked reading your blog, you have a great your view on life.

About the statement…
Some men are loyal, some are not. It’s that simple and I don’t think you can do much about it.

I agree with you about some points. This person might not be the right person for you, or she might not fulfil all of his needs, this can be. But if he’s than better of single; I don’t know about that.

I experienced this in my group of friends that when men are missing something in a relation that they are looking for a bit “excitement” outside of the relationship. If this is a structural thing and it happened more than ones than he shouldn’t be in this relation, than they are both better of with a split up.

I can imagine that some guys would cheat even if they have a good relationship. What if they stepped in to the marriage way to early/young and there is missing something. They don’t go out anymore and are sitting at home all the time and the sex isn’t what it used to be. I still don’t think cheating is the way to solve it; of course they should talk about it. It’s like I said; I do can imagine that guys would cheat.

To come back to the statement. It’s not about the reason why men should or shouldn’t cheat. I do think it’s pretty simple. Some men (and not only men) just have another idea about relationships than most people. I know several guys who cheat with the first girl they run into when they go out clubbing. These guys will always cheat and are not going to change a bit. My view on this; they shouldn’t be in a relationship at all but hé what can I do about it? I’m just giving a few tips on how not to get to get caught.

“I disagree with the statement that men can’t do anything about being cheaters. If a man feels the uncontrollable urge to sleep around, why is he even married? Perhaps…

A) He isn’t READY for a committed relationship and is better off being single
B) His current romantic partner simply isn’t the right person for him – she does not fulfill his needs.

In the case of A, perhaps the best thing to do for both parties would be to split up – get a divorce. It would certainly be the better thing to do in my opinion – it would show that the man is decent enough to hold SOME respect for the woman he proposed to. The man wouldn’t be faced with the possible guilt of infidelity and at the same time, he will have shown some dignity to his wife by being open with her about his current inability to stay monogamous instead of keeping her in the dark and looking like a fool when she does find out.

In the case of B, the man can either give up on the relationship and split up as in A, or figure out what exactly it is that is missing from the relationship – which of his needs aren’t being fulfilled? He can then approach his wife in the way that he sees fit in an attempt to work together with her to fill those needs.

I’m sure some men will state: “But I love my wife. I don’t want to divorce her, I enjoy coming home to her. I just feel the need to sleep around – it’s just how I am.”

To those men I say – did she KNOW this is how you are when she married you? Did you LOVE her enough to tell her before she made a commitment to you? A huge part of love is honesty. If you love her, show her some respect and either be honest enough with her to leave her, be honest enough with her to perhaps ask her to consider an open relationship, or – and here’s an idea – show her some real love by not sleeping around. When you love a person, you don’t go behind their backs – not just with infidelity, but with anything that you know will hurt them. You don’t hurt people you love and you don’t lie to people you love. This, in my opinion, is not love. This is either option A or option B, as explained above.”